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Don't Kill My Zen!!!

"Happiness is when, what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Mahatma Gandhi

When is the perfect moment to be happy? Why is it so hard to make ourselves happy? Have you ever noticed the small things in your life that make you smile? Are you content with being "just"comfortable?

I've asked myself these questions so many times. Over my years of maturing, I found it extremely hard to find myself in a state of total happiness. The crazy thing is, IT'S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE! We're in this together. Don't think of this post as me "Guiding you." I'm guiding myself as well! I created a list a few months back, of tips to protect my happiness on a day-to-day basis.

1. Do things that make YOU happy

There are so many little things we can do to make ourselves happy. Play your favorite song, wear your favorite shoes, buy your favorite ice cream, etcs! The list is endless. Why? Because you DESERVE, PERIOD!!!

2. Don't watch your friends/families social media feeds if you couldn't afford to go on that trip, club night out, etc.

Have you ever had to take the adult route, knowing that either you can't afford to go out, working interferes, etc.? The worst part is watching the fun you're missing out on, via social media. Don't watch it! I'm sure your friends will understand if you let them know, you're protecting your happiness (if you MUST explain.)

3. Stop associating happiness with people, money, social status, materialistic items, success, etc.

"The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have." -Instagram Meme

Society has put this social pressure to make us believe (the things listed above) bring us happiness but what would happen if all (things listed above) vanished? Would people actually be happy?

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. -Albert Schweitzer

4. Live in the moment

"Living in the moment brings you a sense of reverence for all of life's blessings. -Oprah Winfrey"

5. Eliminate toxic people out of your circle

Toxic people take away from your happiness. When surrounded by positivity, gratitude, and supporting energy, it feels SO different. It's so much easier to pair with someone with these great qualities. It just might be time for us to put a rest to Drake's "No new friends" record!

6. Say No! Saying "No," does not make you a bad person. I get it, It's so hard for me to say no. I had to ask myself, "why it was so important for me to please people, to the point I would feel resentful and extremely stressed because of it?"

Honestly, I realized I had to acknowledge my fear of rejection. I was afraid that every time I said no to someone, it would disappoint them or make them not trust me. Having people think negatively of me is the ultimate rejection.

I realized many people go through this every day. It’s a heavy load to carry on with the urge to say yes. It could come from a lack of self confidence, self awareness, and self-value.

7. Therapy Helps

Now, I'll be the first to admit that there are some factors in life that are out of our control, that can affect our happiness, and I get it. We've GOT to do better when it comes to taking care of our mental health. We get hit with those "life" problems that are sometimes too overbearing. It's ok to see a therapist. It's ok to not be ok! Your happiness should be your number one priority everyday. I promise you, isolating yourself and thinking about the things that make feel bad, will not change anything.

Happiness is an everyday choice we need to STOP looking for and START living for.

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